Mindfully Masculine: Personal Growth and Mental Health for Men
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Mindfully Masculine: Personal Growth and Mental Health for Men
Are Your Core Beliefs Ruining Your Love Life?
Is your mindset holding you back in dating and relationships? In this episode, Charles and Dan kick off a new series exploring Dating Essentials for Men by Dr. Robert Glover. They dive deep into the impact of core beliefs on dating success, discussing:
✅ The definition and characteristics of “bad daters”
✅ Common self-limiting beliefs that sabotage relationships
✅ How shame influences dating struggles
✅ The role of social confidence in romantic success
✅ Why challenging your beliefs is essential for personal growth
If you’ve ever felt frustrated with your dating life or relationships, this episode will help you identify and break free from limiting mindsets holding you back.
Key Takeaways
🔹 Your core beliefs shape your dating results. If you’re unhappy with your love life, your thinking may be the problem.
🔹 Self-limiting beliefs hold men back. Many men assume women have a "radar" for good partners—this isn’t true.
🔹 Shame plays a major role in dating struggles. Learning to separate guilt from shame can transform your confidence.
🔹 Being social is the key to success. Developing your social skills is more important than focusing solely on attraction.
🔹 Your mindset determines your outcomes. The first step to improving your dating life is being open to change.
Resources Mentioned
📖 Dating Essentials for Men – Dr. Robert Glover
📖 No More Mr. Nice Guy – Dr. Robert Glover
📖 The Man’s Guide to Women – Dr. John Gottman & Julie Schwartz Gottman
📖 How to Be a 3% Man – Corey Wayne
🎥 Brené Brown on Shame and Vulnerability
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If you're in a position where you're like, no, everything's fine, I'm completely happy with the results that I'm experiencing in my dating life, then, yeah, don't listen to anything we have to say or anybody else. But the most frustrating position I've ever been in is when I'm not happy and I'm not satisfied, but I'm also not willing to let go of anything that I believe I already know to be true. Welcome back to the Mindfully Masculine Podcast. This is Charles, all right. In this episode, dan and I are starting a new series. We are going to review and discuss dating essentials for men by Dr Robert Glover, and in this first episode we will talk about core beliefs and their impact on dating. First episode we will talk about core beliefs and their impact on dating definition and characteristics of bad daters, common self-limiting beliefs in dating, developing confidence in social skills, shame and its role in dating struggles, the challenge of changing beliefs, the social aspect of dating and happiness, practical steps for improving social confidence and our own commitments to personal growth and social interaction. Please check out our website, mindfullymasculinecom. You can find full audio and video episodes, as well as any news that we eventually find fit to share. Thanks and enjoy.
Charles:I need to do it, but I need to. We'll see how it looks with the finished product and hopefully people who put our video podcast on their big screen TVs will be able to take full advantage. I don't even own a 4K. My external monitor that I use at home is 4K. Yeah, but I do not own a 4K TV. I recently bought a new TV and put it in my bedroom in the camper and it's only a 720p TV, so 4K. I'm a long time away from using any of that. Yeah, we're going to try to upload this in 4k. We'll see if it works out.
Charles:We're starting a new book today, the Dating Essentials for Men. We're only going to do part one. Part one is titled Mastering your Mind. I think it's a nice place to go from the man's guide to women.
Charles:Pretty much every good and bad thing people bring into their relationships are really a consequence of what they believe about the world, about themselves, about the opposite sex just all these core beliefs that you walk in the door.
Charles:Whether that's a job, relationship or hobby, you're bringing everything you believe to be true about the world and how things work, how good or bad of an experience that you have is going to be based on those beliefs that you're walking in with, and I would say I'd go a step further and say that the root of all personal development is am I willing to say the things I am certain about might be wrong. If you're not willing to entertain the possibility that all the stuff that I just believe on automatic to be the fact of how the world works, I might not be right about all of it. If you're not willing to say that, I don't see how you're going to make things better, whether that's your job, your romantic relationship, your health. If you're not open to the fact I'm wrong, I don't see how things get better. When it comes to men and their romantic relationships, I think our families and our society are encouraging us to walk in with a lot of bad ideas that are not going to. They're not going to benefit us or our partners.
Dan:I absolutely agree yeah.
Charles:Dr Glover takes the whole first part of this book. So the book is dating essentials for men and he basically says for the first half of this book, all I'm going to focus on is helping you get to the bottom of what do you believe is just not true. And I remember the first time that I read this book I was like, oh, I don't want to waste all this time, I just want to get to part two that teaches me how to meet and date pretty girls. But looking back at it through the prism of both successful and failed relationships and ups and downs and stuff that I've learned in my men's group, stuff that I've learned in therapy, no, the most important part of this book is the first half. The first half is foundational to any success or failure you're going to experience with the stuff that you're going to learn in the second half. So I don't think we're going to go straight into the second half. I think we'll probably take a break and hit some other book in the meantime, but I definitely want to hit the first half of this book and help guys, let go of some of these self-limiting beliefs that we all end up with, because if you let those go and learn there's a better way to think and a better way to feel and a better way to act. Then you'll have much more success in the quality of those relationships.
Charles:So he opens it up by talking about basically defining many men, and certainly there's a huge overlap with the men that he intended to speak to, with no More Mr Nice Guy and what he calls BDs or bad daters. No more mr nice guy and what he calls bds or bad daters. And there's a common thread that runs through all men that are bad daters. And what is a bad dater? I would say any man who finds himself either inside or outside of a romantic relationship that leads him to not feel satisfied is a bad dater. And so here are some of those characteristics Isolation If you find yourself the kind of person that shies away from public spaces, especially public spaces where you might be called upon to talk to strangers or people that you're not super comfortable with, maybe you've got some level of social anxiety that can certainly contribute to you being considered a bad dater.
Charles:In addition to that, someone who feels like they've got a lack of skills with dating, mating and maybe, most importantly, breaking up If you're not practiced at what it takes to get dates and be in relationships with potential at least potential long-term partners and you don't feel comfortable with. Okay, here's the right way way, the ethical way, the kind way, the compassionate way, the direct way to end a relationship. Then you're going to find yourself either avoiding relationships entirely or being stuck in relationships that you should not be stuck in for longer than you should be in them. And then, yeah, we'll get into some of the specific self-limiting beliefs that are very common to men who are just not good at dating. Some of those and we'll start with those first some of those self-dating beliefs is this idea that women have some sort of a radar where they can immediately look at and decide who is a good partner, bad partner, who's a winner, who's a loser, and that's just not true.
Charles:Now, that's different from talking about attraction. When you walk into a room, there are going to be certain things about the way you carry yourself, the way you style yourself, that will give potential dates, potential partners, a little bit of a clue into what you might be about and what kind of things you put effort into, and that could be enough for them to not put out those signals. And, as we've learned in our other books, women are pretty much the choosers, and the way they choose to signal is going to be what determines whether you should or should not approach them or open up to them for a conversation. And so, yeah, the way you walk into a room and the effort that you put in before you walk into the room can certainly get you that pass fail grade pretty quickly.
Dan:Yeah, I think where a lot of guys run into problems and confusion lies in our interpretation of how we interact with women. How we interact with women, I think a lot of times guys will and I've been guilty of this too assume too much out of not enough information, so basically thinking that this woman or a woman would never be interested in a conversation, dating, whatever. If they get some sort of indication that they're not initially attracted to the guy and spin that into just some self-limiting beliefs and then end up sabotaging what potentially could be a good relationship or you could end up going on a date with them. I think a lot of that is probably weight and the difference where a lot of men value physical appearance and its weight is a lot more significant to men than it is typically to a woman for looking to date somebody.
Dan:It's not just a physical thing. There's a lot more value in other aspects of a man's life and personality. Sure, are immediately visible from the surface. And because I think we come from different types of perspectives on attraction, in terms of the weight of physical appearance versus not, I think we get confused and think, hey, because we're getting some initial indications of disinterest that there's, you know, stand a chance anymore, and that's not necessarily true. There's other things that you can be doing that can actually. That shouldn't stop you from having that conversation and just seeing, hey look there's. And not just basing your own value on an initial signal of being of a woman not being interested in you.
Charles:Right young men can learn that they're not being taught by the fathers or mentors in their lives is how do you confidently express your romantic interest in a woman that makes her feel flattered and safe? And that's certainly nothing I was ever taught how to do.
Dan:The thing that really struck me in terms of needing to put work and time and effort into this type of endeavor was when Glover summed it up, which is this whole idea of dating really has only been about in human society for the last few hundred years, and that's only in the West.
Dan:In the East, a lot of the relationships are set up by families, and so that's not something that is born into our DNA, whereas everything else our brains, our appetite, the food that we prefer, just about everything else that we do as human beings is coming from thousands and thousands or hundreds of thousands of years of evolution and our genes dictating a lot of our behaviors and our thoughts, and so this is a new skill set. This is think of it as a new technology. You need to learn, and we're not taught this in school and you might pick up a little bit from looking around, from friends, from family members, or maybe online. You might pick up something, but you really need to practice this and you need to get it from a reliable source, a good source, and we think Glover is definitely one of those.
Charles:Yeah, I know he's definitely got a handle on that and on this concept and that's why, as I've said in other episodes, between the last book we did the Man's Guide to Women, dating Essentials for Men and how to Be a 3% man by Corey Wayne. Those are my top three as far as what you need to know about being a successful dater. And yeah, I just looked up while you're talking. Romeo and julia was written by shakespeare 1597. The whole point of that play is look how stupid it is to pick your partner based on who you feel love for. That's what it was like. Look how these two families are being destroyed because these two little kids decided to pursue relationships with who they loved instead of who they were supposed to marry yeah, look at that, and that's the thing too is I think a lot of times that came from having multiple advisors.
Dan:Right, I could try to take the, the burden and the weight off of people who might be feeling really shitty about themselves because of these self-limiting beliefs that, like, I'm not good at talking to girls no, you're not, and that's okay Because you weren't taught that. It'd be different if this was something that you were an expert in your entire life. You got a degree in relationships and you were like one of the Gottmans, and then you have bad relationships. Okay, then you can feel bad about yourself. Right, because you've been spending your whole life studying this and now you're not good at it. But we don't have that experience.
Dan:So, take that pressure off of yourself. Don't feel so bad, because this isn't something that comes natural and I think a lot of times we do that I know. Sometimes, when I don't sleep well, I start to get upset because I'm not sleeping well. The process of getting upset makes you sleep less well in the future. So same thing I think applies here is take the pressure off of yourself and realize, yep, you know what you need to work on it and that's okay, and take value in the fact that you are doing something. You're listening to this podcast, you're going to go read this book.
Charles:There's things that you are actively doing and then feel good about that People this whole concept of for to make yourself better at anything. You have to admit that OK, I don't have it all figured out, and you also have to be willing to take a little bit of responsibility. Yeah, don't beat yourself up because you're not good at something. But you also can't say I'm not good at dating because women are trash, women are horrible. Modern women are slutty. You take responsibility. No, don't blame. Yeah, because if you're trying to look outside yourself to say the reason I'm not good at this is everybody else's fault, you're never going to get good at it.
Dan:Yeah, it's going to be a little bit of a challenge trying to change everybody else. I just feel like it's easier to work on yourself.
Charles:Yeah, and there are good potential matches out there. There's good men, there's good women there out there that are looking to have romantic relationships of all sorts with other good partners. If you're in a position where you're like, no, everything's fine, I'm completely happy with the results that I'm experiencing in my dating life, then, yeah, don't listen to anything we have to say or anybody else. But the most frustrating position I've ever been in is when I'm not happy and I'm not satisfied, but I'm also not willing to let go of anything that I believe I already know to be true. I think I've got it all figured out, but life's still not working for me. Then I must just be unlucky, or it must be everybody else's problem, or whatever. It's very hard to justify or rationalize the idea of well, I'm not going to change anything about the way that I think, but I'm also not happy with the results that I'm getting, so therefore it must be somebody else's fault. So it sounds like you went through something like that?
Dan:Sure, Absolutely. So then how did you end up finding Dr Glover's work? You told me I literally I forgot. Was it just the google search or was it like was there something that happened, or was it, or did somebody mention or refer him to you because he's got a lot of?
Charles:he's got a lot of stuff I think I found no more, mr nice guy. I think I found it on reddit, where you know it was toward the end of my marriage and I wasn't feeling good about the way things went and I was looking for okay, so who's out there talking about how relationships fail and what can be done to either prevent the failure from finally happening or protect yourself so that you don't find yourself making the same mistakes or being in the same situations again?
Dan:So you already had the mindset of yeah, things were already not great. No, you already had the mindset of I have it all figured out, because if you did, you wouldn't be searching for that information, correct, so it's not like you're like oh, it was all her fault and I have nothing to do with this and I'm good, I'm going to move on and try and find somebody else. You, there's something inside of you or something happened where you're like you know what? There's something, there's something that I am a part of or responsible for, and if that's the case, then that means there's something that can change.
Charles:Yeah, there's a. There's a phrase that Glover quotes. It's also pretty commonly used in 12 step recovery programs. Which is your best thinking is what got you here? And it's that a succinct way of saying listen, you're. You've tried to solve all your problems with the brain inside your skull and here you are still having problems, so that must mean that the fixes for all your problems they're not up here. You need other brains involved in this If you're going to come to two answers that you can trust or information from Correct.
Dan:Yeah, your brain is just fine, just doesn't have the right programming, just yet correct.
Charles:Yeah, the, the, the library that exists in my head does not have a book to solve my problem, and at least it doesn't yet. It can at some point in the future. But I've had multiple relationships where things were not going well and I tried to figure out okay, what can I do to fix this, what can I do to make this better? And as long as I was relying on my own understanding, my own self-limiting beliefs, my own education, then, yeah, I was going to be whatever little. Oh, let me try this fix, let me try that fix. It's still coming from the broken brain that got me into the problem in the first place and you won't be unlucky.
Dan:It might have some of that, might have worked, but let me try this, let me try that, but use the shortcut for the people who haven't figured out yeah, yeah, because your brain, if you haven't spontaneously figured out life all on your own, then that's because you.
Charles:You either have some of the false information that's going to get you into more trouble and eventually, even if you do luck out and come up with a solution a temporary solution to your problems, there's still probably other things bouncing around up there that are going to also lead to more problems. So, yeah, I would say the biggest thing you have to do is just be open to the idea of okay, there's, I got some stuff I've got to learn, because the stuff that and with my first marriage I did all the things that I thought made sense to have a forever long-term relationship and then ultimately, a divorce, so the stuff that I thought I knew that it took to have a forever relationship and be a forever husband, it's failed me, and so now I need some new information and no More. Mr Nice Guy was one of the first books that I came across when I was making that search.
Dan:Yeah, I know I didn't come from an upbringing where I know what it takes to have a long-term happy relationship. You did not either.
Charles:If you go through a book like this, especially the first part, you're going to in all likelihood, hear some things that you don't believe are true, and they will fly in the face of what you already believe about yourself, about women, about relationships. And then you've got to decide okay, I'm going to be open to this doctor telling me things that I don't already think are true. So either he's wrong or I'm wrong. And look if, if you want to decide, okay, he must be wrong. So I'm going to keep believing what I'm believing and I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing. Then keep getting what you're getting, get what you're getting, and okay, or you can say, all right, maybe he knows more than I do, and maybe the science and the community, maybe there's some expertise here that I can take advantage of that I don't already have.
Dan:Yeah, a lot of times us as humans, we just need to be aware that we're doing something in order for it to change Right. And that's one of the benefits of this book was he really goes very specific, into a lot of detail about very common self-limiting beliefs that we either have or we have a flavor of. And sometimes it was just him just mentioning and going oh yeah, that applies to me. Okay, yeah, I didn't realize I was doing that, and now I'm at least open to doing something different because I'm aware that I need it, I'm aware that I'm doing it, or now that I'm aware that I'm doing it, now I go okay, I don't really like where this is going or the results I've gotten. So that, in and of itself, just listening to him list out the self-limiting beliefs was a way to open up and to realize hey, there's some things that I'm not doing at least in his opinion, the right way.
Charles:Right, and, yeah, if you're, if your results are also not what you want them to be, then that's a good indicator that there's things you could be doing better. Okay, so the the big part of this chapter, which I'm glad he spent some time on this I it was one of those things that I think he said in interviews that he wished he spent more time on in no more, mr Nice guy which is the idea of shame, specifically what he calls toxic shame. Um, and this is a place that Bernie Brown does a lot of work as well, and I find the way they talk about it to match up, which is good, because when somebody is talking about shame and they sound like Brene Brown, that's probably a good indication that they're right. I like the distinction that and I believe that's something that she has said in her work guilt is I did something wrong, shame is I am something wrong, and guilt is good when you feel I did something wrong, then that can prevent you from doing that wrong thing in the future, and so you and the people around you benefit from that where, with shame of I am something wrong, that that feels yeah, any even efforts of self-improvement, feel like you're throwing away good money after bad. Because why there's? If there's something wrong with you inherently, why waste any time or money trying to make yourself better? Because you're just going to be wasting it? And where does that come from? So this is the tough part.
Charles:That kind of shame comes from being a kid who doesn't have your needs met and what we're not talking about. You don't have to have parents that were putting cigarettes out on you to get out of your childhood toxic shame. It could. Your parents could have been great people who did the best they could with what they had available, but because none of us grow up in perfect family systems, we have needs that are not met. And then, as kids, we try to tell ourselves a story of why, when I needed this whether that was to be held or a warmer jacket, whatever the thing was that you needed and you didn't get it. What's the story you tell yourself about? Why didn't I get what I needed? And I thought about I was thinking about this on the way over this morning where, if you are, if you've been convinced of something that's not true, then you can also be convinced out of false belief If you've been talked into or persuaded into believing something that's not true, then you could be talked out of or persuaded out of it as well.
Charles:But the problem is, when you're a kid and that frontal lobe has not yet been formed, there's not a lot of persuading or reasoning going on at that point. There's just feeling You're being field into believing things. And so if you've been field into believing things about yourself and the world that are not true, you can't be reasoned or persuaded out of those beliefs.
Dan:Yeah, and I think one of the reasons for that is the way our brains work is, once we believe something, brains look for evidence to support that belief?
Charles:yeah, he calls it the paradigm effect. We've also confirmation.
Dan:Bias is another way to think about it, and so then, once you're initially programmed as a kid to believe these certain things, now there's time and experience that is brought into you as you age where you're looking for those beliefs out in the real world, and so it's a lot more difficult then to take that book off the shelf that was initially put on there, because you've found evidence in the real world, whereas before you didn't have that to actually, like you said, real world, whereas before you didn't have that to actually, like you said, evaluate and decide. This is not an actual. This isn't accurate for me. And, yeah, the more time we go on believing these things and that's the whole can't teach an old dog new tricks. That's part of I think that's what leads to that expression is we've been doing something the same way for so long. It's very difficult to undo that.
Charles:Yeah's where, again, it comes in to the how do those ideas and beliefs come in and how do they get out? And the way they come in has to be the way that they come out, which, again, some. When you're a small enough kid, some of this stuff happened to you before you were even verbal, much less before you had a reasoning mind, and you grew up feeling, oh, I'm worthless. Somebody coming along and saying no, no, you're not worthless, you're worth a lot, and giving you a thumbs up. That's not going to undo what happened. And that's where other, less convenient, more difficult things come in, like therapy and like recovery groups. And you, you have to feel your way out of those beliefs, not just be talked out of.
Charles:And, yeah, it all often does start with dialogue. You have to have conversations, but it's not just about the conversations, not just about being convinced. It's about feeling what you need, to feel that you didn't feel back then, so that you can move forward. And that takes a lot of work. And it takes a lot of work that some people not just men, but men and women, they never get to the point where they decide okay, I'm going to put in the work, I'm not going to accept that the things hanging around in my skull are what's causing me to not have what I want in life. I'm going to just move on to the next thing the next job, the next relationship, the next state that I want to live in the next country. I want to live in the next country. I want to live in whatever it is. You can just find lots of ways to run away from your problems, but if your problems are in here, they're going to find you.
Dan:Yeah, and that's one of the reasons why a lot of people have to hit rock bottom because they feel worse keeping on doing the same thing that they've been struggling with. That feels now worse than putting in the effort to make the change and doing something differently. And you're right, it does take a lot of work, time and effort and people don't want to do that Humans and our brains.
Charles:We're always trying to conserve energy, so it needs to be really motivating and sometimes it's got to be that pain level of feeling all of the bad, horrible feelings that will actually get you to actually take action that will stick into a me in a meaningful way which is one of the things in modern times that makes us even harder to get over, is because it's the rock bottom is harder to hit, especially when it comes to things like loneliness, because there's there are so many poor facsimiles of love that you can find now or ways to dull yourself from the pain of not having those things makes it harder to to hit that rock bottom. Because, no matter how lonely you are, you can find moving pictures and sound of a woman who is making you feel things that feel like intimacy, feel like sex, feel like whatever. And yeah, you've got that. You've got drugs and alcohol, you've got the stimulation from TV shows and video games. There's a lot of things that when you start feeling bad about yourself, you can distract yourself from those bad feelings and that could often stop you from making these big changes that you need to make.
Charles:And the other thing is, yeah, because of that paradigm effect or that confirmation bias, every time you think about going out and trying something new, meeting new friends, meeting new ladies, whatever it is that voice in your head can say just don't bother, just stay home. You can have more fun if binge the new netflix show or download the latest game for your xbox or your ps5 or whatever, and say, uh, you know what, I'll just. I'll just not risk something new because, again, you've got this idea that what's in it for me, what's in it for me to go put myself out there and try to meet somebody new or try to go to a new activity or new whatever. I'm just going to meet people who don't think I'm good enough and I'm not going to get anything from them that I need anyway. So it can be tough and I listen, I'm a bit of a homebody myself and so I not just in the dating space, but just the do I really want to do? I want to shower, shave, get dressed up and go do something new at a new place. It's as simple as trying new restaurants where it's like there's so many places around that I know that I like already.
Charles:Why would I want to go risk trying some new place where I may be disappointed and, yeah, it really does come down to do? I want to take on the identity of somebody who risks new things, who risks the disappointment of a new thing, because my world can get bigger when it does work out that it's worth letting go of your comfortable misery for things that could be uncomfortably fun and amazing or things that could be uncomfortably awkward and scary, but that's what we're going to do, so we're going to go through and try to challenge some of those self-limiting beliefs about all the ways you don't think you're enough for the next relationship or the next new thing. We want you to try, and you and I are already in relationships but I'm gonna try to go through some of these things. And one of the biggest things that he talks about is spend more time being in places where people are and change your route.
Charles:Linger in public yeah, and that's one thing I need to definitely do more of. Because, yeah, not only for just being more social, and one of the things dr glover says in his interviews I don't know if he says it directly in this book but he also says I'm not trying to get men more sex or even love. What I'm trying to do is get men to be more social, and I will use their desire for love and sex as motivation to get them more social. Because, honestly, I really do think that when it comes to crime, when it comes to political unrest, a lot of that stuff could be fixed by men who are more comfortable having conversations and being social having conversations and being social.
Dan:I just read the there's a Harvard medical school I think it was a medical school study They've tracked people since 1938 and they've tracked kids of these people and they're looking for like indications of longevity and they said by far it's clearly insignificant. The biggest indicator of the longest lifespan is your social connections. More than diet, more than exercise, more than genetics, anything else, it's the people who have the most active social lives live the longest. So Glover's onto something there in terms of human happiness it's our social connections. And yeah, basically he is selling people what they want right which is the book on dating but he's giving them what they want right which is a book on dating but he's giving them what they need, which is the self-confidence and the awareness that being social and having these social connections is essential to happiness and fulfillment.
Charles:Yeah, and so I'm going to use it as an opportunity to get a little bit uncomfortable myself and spend more time. My job is mostly work from home. It's been on the road quite a bit more lately, being busy doing stuff, going to clients, but on those days when I can just stay at home, I'm going to try not to just stay at home and just be out there and working in coffee shops and going to the gym and doing stuff that I don't feel like I need to do, but I do. It is a being. Social is certainly a part of your overall health.
Dan:I used to go to Starbucks and work regularly, but when I did do it, I didn't say hi to anybody I didn't you know what I'm saying. I but I was. At least I was putting myself out there or whatever, and then I'd see some of the same people over and over again, but it never extended a greeting to any of them or try to keep their names or anything. It's something I absolutely could work on as well.
Charles:Yeah, so I'm going to, I'm going to try, I'm going to go through and do the things that this book recommends. We do the ones that make sense, since I'm already in a relationship. Most people who are reading this and the guys who are going to be very interested in hearing this series on our podcast are probably not the ones that are already in a relationship. But there's some stuff, especially in this first part, about your self-limiting beliefs. If you can let go of some of those, you'll be a better partner for the relationship you're already in. So that's something I'm looking to get. Well, for the next chapter the joy of dating, uncover and overcome your self-limiting beliefs we will go down the different types. We'll go through the little phrases you can read to yourself, will expose those self-limiting beliefs and then also see in the language that you use to talk to yourself, what kind of language are you using. That is reinforcing those slbs. So I'm looking forward to that.
Charles:And, yeah, this is a good book and I like this kind of material. So I'm excited to go through it and I probably listened to this book four times now and I can definitely handle another listen to it because it it is that good. So I hope everybody. We don't have any affiliate codes, so go get it from the library, go buy it from amazon, get it wherever you want to get it and enjoy going through it with us. All right, thanks, dan. We will talk to you next time. See you soon. Thank you so so much for listening to the entire episode, start to finish, dan, and I certainly appreciate it. We hope that you will check out our website, mindfullymasculinecom, for our audio episodes, video episodes and any other resources that we would like to share. Thanks very much, and we'll talk to you next time.
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